Why Children Tell Lies

why-children-tell-lies It is not unusual for a child to lie. According to psychologists, lying can be a part of the natural development process of a child, when he/she begins testing limits of life and the consequences of his actions. Moreover, a small kid, who hears and sees stories of the fantasy world, might find it difficult to distinguish between fantasy and reality. However, sometimes, lying can develop into a habit, making your child a compulsive liar. If you do not check the lying habit of your child, it would lead to serious behavioral problems.

Before telling your child the adverse consequences of lying, you should find out why your child lies.



Reasons why children lie

Fear
Children largely lie out of fear. If the child is afraid that he has not done something right, and if he says the truth, he will be scolded or punished, he will not tell the truth. By telling a lie, the child tries to protect himself from the wrath of others.



Avoiding unpleasant action
Your child might find certain tasks boring. He might dislike drinking milk or washing his hands. To avoid such boring or unpleasant tasks he might lie.

Attention
Sometimes children consider lying as a tool for getting his parents’ attention. To draw your attention, even when your child is perfectly fit, he might say that he is unwell.




Poor self-esteem
A child suffering from poor self-esteem would lie to his friends about expensive toys and books. He feels that his lies will make others appreciate him.

When parents lie
Children consider their parents as their role models. If they see their parents lying, they will think lying as something natural.

Teach your child honesty
When you discover that your child is lying too much, do not ignore it as a mere childhood menace. At the same time, do not be too harsh with him.

Once you succeed to discover the reasons for your child’s behavior, try to eliminate his fears and false beliefs. However, preaching is something your child will dislike. Instead, discuss with him about the consequences of lying through friendly discussions. Teach your child values of apologizing for a wrong act. However, despite your best efforts if you fail to amend your child’s behavior, seek professional help.



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