It’s not easy being in love: pain and blissful love walk hand in hand. Relationships often go through a lot of highs and lows, and those which are unconventional have to face even more trouble. Most of this trouble may come from societal perceptions.
Age difference in relationships is not a new phenomenon. Many young women date older men and vice versa. While it is not wrong to be in such a relationship, a few important matters need to be considered.
Conflict of interest
Older men are mature and understanding and hence will give women more respect. They don’t need to be taken care of as they are probably already well experienced and secure in life.
On the other hand, younger women and older men may have varying interests. The former may like partying and dancing while the latter may prefer watching movies or reading books. Or the man may enjoy sports and the woman may prefer quiet activities. These differences seem to be multiplied because of age difference.
If true love exists between the couple, a compromise can help solve these matters. People in such relationships need to be prepared to face such situations.
The disapproval of family and friends is a major factor to deal with. Parents generally disapprove of any boy their daughter dates, but may be more distrustful of an older man. Likewise the man’s family may see the girl as a gold-digger (if the man is rich!).
The couple’s love and mutual trust has to be strong. They can avoid fights and misunderstandings by dealing with the situation calmly and rationally.
Life and death
A younger woman in a relationship with an older man needs to realize that the lifespan of their relationship may be short. It is believed that women live longer than men; if the man is nearing old age, a woman needs to be prepared for accompanying health problems or even death.
Finally, the heart wants what it wants. You can’t help who you fall in love with. Nevertheless, be prepared to take responsibility for the relationship.