Children want their parents only for themselves. Therefore, when a new child arrives in the family, the elder sibling is often overwhelmed by the fear of losing his/her parents’ love. This gives rise to jealousy.
This is also the root of future sibling rivalries, as the child strives to attract the attention of his parents. To eliminate such wrong feelings from the mind of the child, parents should consciously prepare the child to welcome his/her new sibling.
Each child has a different personality. While a child might not like his baby brother or sister, there are other children who would love the baby from the moment they see the infant. Before a baby arrives in the family, you might not be aware of the reactions of your older kid. Hence, instead of waiting for the arrival of the infant, to observe whether your child reacts favorably or unfavorably, you should take steps to prepare your child for the new member of the family before the baby is born.
Inform your child
You should tell your child in advance that he would soon have a new baby sister or brother. Make sure that the child first hears about the baby from the parents and not from someone else. If anyone other than the child’s parents tells him about the baby, he might feel that his parents are starting to neglect him.
Assure your child nothing will change
Tell your child that a baby sibling will not change his life in anyway. Instead, he will get a new companion with whom he can play. Assure him that his parents will love and care for him as they always did before the baby arrived in the family. Do not change the regular routine of your child.
Make your child interested in the baby
You should make your child understand that babies are very vulnerable and they cannot do anything for themselves. After the baby arrives, ask your child to stay with you when you are cleaning the baby or changing his nappies. Ask you child to talk to the baby. You should show your affection for the older child in front of the baby. This helps your older child to realize that despite the baby, his parents still love him.