Every wedding ceremony has traditional vows that are to be recited by the couple. But you can give a more personal touch to the ceremony by writing your own wedding vows.
The decision of writing personalized wedding vows should be taken by the bride and groom only. Write these vows only if you want to convey your love to your partner in heartfelt words, and not to impress a third party. Your wedding is a special, once-in-a-lifetime occasion. So make it perfect by writing your wedding vows much in advance.
Permission for personal vows
While some churches may allow personalized wedding vows, others may insist on the couple reciting only the traditional vows. So check with your wedding minister about the rules regarding wedding vows.
Sit down with your partner and discuss the matter thoroughly. Decide whether you both want to say the same vow or different ones. You can also decide on the content and tone of the vows. Would the other be okay with a little humor? Would you two be including anecdotes about your relationship?
Think, reflect, read, and learn
For the content of your vows, you need to think about your relationship with your partner. Note down everything that you like about him/her. Remember the early days of your attraction, of the moment you knew that you were in love with your partner.
Read up on poems and quotes and see if you can find one that is suitable for your vow. Then write down the content coherently and read it. Also ask a trustworthy friend or relative to check it once. Make any changes required at this point.
Once the final draft of the vow is prepared, practice reciting it. If you can’t memorize it, write it on a note card and give a copy to your best man/bridesmaid.
Say your vows at the altar with love and emotion and express your affection for your partner.