How to lift your child’s confidence and self-reliance

praising-child Our individual personalities and the way people assess us later in life often depends on our childhood training. Therefore, it is important for parents to boost their child’s self-confidence and self-reliance.

Children have a sensitive mind. Whether spoken knowingly or unintentionally, our comments leave a mark on them. Hence, it is important to choose words carefully while speaking to kids. There are various steps in building a child’s confidence.

Trace your child’s talents

The first step in boosting your child’s confidence is to identify what subjects interest him/her. Try to find out their best talents. Even if it does not appear ‘career-friendly’ at point, do not discourage them.

A child already faces a lot of criticism in various fields once he/she steps into the outside world. Therefore, it is a parent’s duty to see that they don’t repeat the same.

Show your love and appreciation

Rather than using phrases like – “your marks could have been better,” try telling them –“Wow, that’s a good score, I am sure you will double it next time.” Appreciation of one’s child’s achievements makes them aware of their capabilities.

Also, it gives them more confidence to perform better successively. However, it does not mean that one approves every thing a child does. If they make a mistake, try explaining it to them gently.

Designate responsibilities to your kids

Most of us tend to keep our children away from work in their early years. But in order to make them self-reliant, they should be made more responsible.

Assign simple tasks to your kid on a daily basis; for example, polishing their school shoes, cleaning their bike etc.

Rather than doing and giving them everything they ask for, teach them to earn it. For example, ask them to take up some summer job and save the earnings for their favorite items.

This really makes them more confident and escalates their problem-solving ability.

Don’t lay out compulsory rules

Instead of laying down stringent rules of ‘do nots’ before them, let them commit their own mistakes at an early stage. Nothing teaches a child more than his own mistake.

Parents must realize that peers exert a considerable influence on a kid during his/her growing years. Therefore, it is essential to teach them how to choose friends.

These simple strategies definitely raise a child’s confidence. Also, they strengthen the bonding between parents and children in the long run.