Handling tantrums of children is one of the major parenting challenges. Parents are often unsure how to deal with the anger and frustrations of their children. The outbursts of toddlers might embarrass parents in social gatherings and public places. Before learning the tricks of dealing with your child’s tantrums, it is important to know the factors that trigger the tantrums.
Reasons for tantrums
It is difficult for toddlers to control their emotions. They have not learnt the basics of social etiquettes. Kids easily express their disgust and irritations through emotional outbursts. It is normal for kids between 1 and 4 years of age to throw tantrums. The frequency and intensity of tantrums decreases as the child grows up.Â However, if tantrum occurs frequently in children above four, it is possible that the child is hypersensitive. Tantrums could be a part of the development process of children. Toddlers trying to cope with their environment and learning to become independent might become frustrated easily. Their limited language skills might further aggravate their bad mood.
In such circumstances, tantrums become the natural expression of their disgust. However, frequent tantrums in older children, which make them aggressive, might indicate a behavioral problem. If your child is hypersensitive, professional help is required.
Dealing with tantrums
When your child throws tantrums, you should maintain your calm. Sometimes parents themselves become angry and punish the angry child. However, punishing the child will only help to escalate his tantrums.
Sometimes parents try to calm the angry child with gifts. Rewarding your child will only make your child prone to tantrums. Your child will use tantrum as a weapon to force you to meet his demands. The best way to handle your child’s tantrum is to ignore him when he throws tantrum.
Isolate your child in a room and allow him to calm down on his own. If you are in a public place, try to take your angry child to a private area, such as inside your car. If it is not possible for you to take your child away from the public place, do not admonish him/her in public, but simply ignore his behavior. After your child has settled down, tell him that this is not an appropriate behavior.