Getting over and moving on: from ex boyfriends

gettin-over-him It is said that lovers exist on a separate planet; that is probably why it’s so hard to return to Planet Earth when you’re no longer with your beloved or rather, former beloved. But a solitary existence on the lonely planet of past love is not the ideal existence. Hard as it may be, you need to get over your ex boyfriend.

Determination

Give yourself some time to mourn the relationship, but define that period of time. Don’t mope around for months in longing and pain. In the interim, you may lose out on wonderful opportunities for happiness and even love. Make a decision that you want to forget him and move on with your life.

Action

When you’ve made the decision, take the necessary steps to put the decision into effect. This means getting rid of everything that belongs to him or that reminds you of him. Remove any possibilities of accidentally stumbling across something that belonged to him and indulging in long reminisces.

Socializing

If you feel it is too soon to start dating again, involve yourself in other social activities. Spend time with your family and friends. However, if you and your ex-boyfriend have common friends, there may be some trouble.

A good option is to meet new people. Enroll in workshops and seminars on subjects that are of interest to you.

If you’re a party animal, this is a good time to go completely wild. But maintain some limits; don’t harm yourself or become rash in your activities just because you’re feeling depressed.

Self control

It’s easy to fall into daydreams about him. It’s also easy to let yourself be guided by a false ray of hope: that he’ll call, or you’ll run into him on the street, or you’ll find an email from him waiting for you in your inbox. It’s probably too easy.

It will take time and patience, but you need to exercise control on yourself. Think about your life without him and make it beautiful. Know your self-worth and potential.

Get ready for new experiences and perhaps a new relationship.