People generally expect perfect behavior from the host and crib if anything is amiss. But the success of a social occasion does not depend on the host alone: the guests also play a crucial role.
Whether you’re a guest at a brunch or a house guest staying at the home of a friend or relative, there are certain codes of conduct to be followed.
Ascertain your presence
Don’t leave your host in suspense about your attendance at the party (unless you’re planning a fun surprise). If the hosts have asked for confirmation, inform them in time, whether your answer is positive or negative. It will help them in their preparations.
The thoughtful guest
Mostly, the host will be a friend or relative you know well. In this case, try and offer help to your host before the party. If you can cook, offer to prepare any part of the menu, otherwise offer assistance with decorations, table settings or center pieces. Even if the host declines, she will appreciate your offer.
The punctual guest
Making a late entrance may not necessarily be impressive; you could cause inconvenience to the hosts. Arrive on time or if possible, even earlier and help set up for the party. It is best to call first though; the host may find your too timely presence an inconvenience!
The only guest
Check with your hosts if you’re bringing any extra guests. If they’re ‘the more, the merrier’ kind of people, they won’t mind. However, there are some who might be rather formal about such situations. Especially if you’re a new comer at the party, bringing another guest may not be looked upon kindly.
As a house guest, it is important to remember that you’re not at a hotel, so don’t expect room service. Your hosts will be hospitable and kind, but taking advantage of them is rude. Try and help out as much as possible, leave the house clean, don’t overstay your visit and bring a thank you gift.
Finally, know that a good guest is always welcome at social functions and always invited.